Meet the mother who's thinking of giving up her son so that she can marry her fiancé

goss 07/03/2018

Yes, you read that right. 

Someone recently wrote to an agony aunt claiming that they were considering giving up their children in order to get married.

The writer, who called themselves 'Feeling Stuck' wrote to Dear Wendy:

I’m a 30-year-old divorcee with a son. I have joint custody with my ex-husband.


She continued:

"My boyfriend, who is also divorced, has a daughter who is under the sole custody of his ex-wife. I only get to spend time with my son on alternate weekends and my boyfriend doesn’t see his daughter at all. My boyfriend already proposed to me, but, one month after proposing, he wants me to give up seeing my son."

"I did tell him that my parents want to spend time with my son too and they can only do that on the alternate weekends I see him. He told me that he wants to go overseas to work and meanwhile I can use this period to think about whether I want to give up my son for him. I have thought of giving up my son after we married, but how am I supposed to answer to my parents?"

"My mother has depression and my father has cancer. I don’t want them to be sad knowing that they will lose a grandson."

"My boyfriend told me when we started dating that he could not accept my son, and I know not all men can. I’m actually prepared to give up my son after marriage, but my boyfriend wants me to do it right now."

"I want to be with my boyfriend and yet I can’t bear to let my parents feel sad because of their illnesses. I also have a mother’s guilt in me because my son loves me so much. What should I do?"

Wendy's advice... priceless.

Yeah, no sh*t you have 'mother’s guilt.


Strong start Wendy.

"You’re willing to give up the little bit of time you have with your son, which is already a depressingly small amount, for a monster of a man who doesn’t see his own child and doesn’t think you should see yours? Shame on you."

"Are you so lonely and so desperate for a husband that you would cast away your own child? Apparently so."

"Please, please get yourself to therapy and figure out what the f*ck is wrong with you that you would behave in such an appalling, disgraceful way."

"I’m not even touching on your parents. That you would use them and their illnesses as the main reason to maybe keep seeing you son occasionally speaks volumes. Get help."

Wendy. You savage.

All jokes aside, we only know the circumstances given to us, we're not into the business of shaming women into keeping children.