Dad slammed for taking his daughter into the women's toilet

Si & Gary 22/11/2017

A parenting forum is at the centre of a heated debate over a father who took his daughter into the women's bathrooms.

A mother with the username 'AdaHopper' wrote a post on website Mumsnet asking for input on a disagreement she had with her partner.

"Help *my dear husband* and I with a disagreement please," she wrote.

"When *our daughter* needs the loo in a public place, he takes her to the ladies' loos. I told him that women don't like that and he should take her to the men's loo. Am I being unreasonable or is he?"

Many commenters took her side, agreeing that the father in question should have taken his daughter to the men's bathrooms rather than going into the women's toilet himself.

User 'Clary' said the father was "out of order".

"I do recall DH saying DD needed to get used to going into the ladies by herself if he was out without me, as men's los [sic] can be grim... she was older than four though," the user wrote.

"At four she is going to have to go in the men's. Best thing is to find a nicer one? Or at my local shopping centre they have a family loo which seems a good idea."

"He should go to the men's with her," added a user called 'Dementedpixie'.

"I would say use the disabled," wrote another commenter.

Only a few users sympathised with the father in question.

"I understand the conflict," wrote 'TheDevilMadeMeDoIt'.  "But I would rather a father in the ladies - individual cubicles - than a four year old girl being taken into the gents with no idea what she might see. (And I've wandered into the gents accidentally a couple of times, they're not nice places! Smelly, grubby.....)".

"I would prefer to see a man take his daughter into ladies if no family/disabled toilet available," wrote 'Pixie2015'. "[I] don't think any young child needs urinal or stinky cubicle exposure."

Other commenters proposed that unisex bathrooms were the solution.

"I much prefer the individual non sexed cubicles with their own sink that many of the newer shopping centres etc have," wrote one user.

"I do think we should have family toilets or something for these situations," said another.