Taylor Myers has opened up in a brutally honest Facebook post about her struggles with parenting her child with ADHD.
She was in a department store with her daughter Sophie when she spied a bag of chips. Sophie immediately started asking if she could have them, gradually getting louder.
‘We stood in line for several minutes, me ignoring her whining and refusing to give in. What’s giving in to bad behaviour going to do but reinforce the bad behaviour?’
After telling Sophie to sit down again, she heard a woman behind her say: ‘oh for Christ’s sake, give her a cookie so she’ll shut up!’.
‘I could’ve responded in a nicer way. I could’ve explained to her that my four-year- old has pretty severe ADHD, I raise both my children alone, I’m doing my best, and had no choice but to wait it out for the groceries.
‘Instead, I heard “she’s four years old and you need to mind your own ****ing business” come out of my mouth. I kept my composure until I finished what I was doing and walked to self-check out so I could avoid facing anyone else as “that person”. The person with the misbehaving child. The person who seems lazy because they’re ignoring the behaviour. The person who knows doing anything but ignoring it is only going to make it worse.’
Luckily, a kind woman could see that Taylor was distressed so she helped Taylor with her things and took her and her child back to their car.
‘You never know what someone’s going through. You never know the problems a child has that causes them to misbehave and unless you know the struggle of being a parent to a child like mine, you cannot judge me.
‘But it also takes one small act of kindness to make a mama feel comfort and validation. Thank you to the woman in Walmart today, for showing that kindness to my children and I. Thank you for walking us out.’
You can read Taylor's full post on her Facebook page.