Sometimes, as humans, we can feel so different from the people around us, whether that is when we're with our friends, our family, or complete strangers.
But as different as we may feel, every human can be fitted into one of four basic personality types.
In her book, The Four Tendencies: The Surprising Truth About The Hidden Personality Types That Drive Everything We Do, Gretchen Rubin details four types of people we can be sorted into; Upholders, Obligers, Questioners, or Rebels.
Each is defined by how they tend to respond to expectations from external or internal sources.
See which one of these categories you may fit into:
"respond readily to outer and inner expectations.”
- Hate to let other people down
- Hate to let themselves down
- Are driven by routine
- Can keep New Year’s Resolutions
Example of an Upholder: Hermione Granger
"meet outer expectations, but they struggle to keep the commitments they make to themselves."
- Are at work on time
- Rarely cancel at the last minute
- Sincerely don’t want to let people down, but often let themselves down
- Are a people pleaser, more willing to do things for others
- Are motivated by external pressures
Example of an Obliger: Andre Agassi
"they’ll meet an expectation if they think it makes sense–essentially, they make all expectations into inner expectations".
- Experience ‘decision paralysis’, and being ‘committed’ to doing things isn’t enough to make them do it.
- Always ask, “But WHY should I go?” / WHY should I do that?
- Stick to worthwhile habits
Examples of Questioners: Steve Jobs and Jane Eyre.
"resist all expectations, outer and inner alike", and is the smallest group of people.
- Resit expectations forced upon them
- Rebel against routine
- May struggle to hold down a job
- Exercise sporadically
- Pull the plug as soon as something is working for them
Example of a Rebel: Picasso