Bridesmaid splits opinion after saying she doesn't want to pay for her dress

omg 10/12/2018

A bridesmaid has split opinion on the Mumsnet website after admitting she's reluctant to pay for her dress for her friend's wedding...

"I am to be one of 5 bridesmaids for my friends wedding summer 2019." her post began.

"I am the only one of the 5 who has young children, I am also a single parent with very little money."

"Already the 'honour' of being her bridesmaid is being very costly. We went to the bridesmaid dress fittings and selected our sizes from the pre selected dresses of her choice. The dresses were $450 NZD."

"I don't have that kind of money and I am just really shocked. Surely if we are paying for it should be a dress of our own choice. I would never spend $450 on an item of clothing especially one that I will never wear again, but what choice do I really have now?"

People were quick to give their thoughts and advice to the woman...

"Just be honest and say you cannot buy the dress. If she's any type of friend she will understand." one person wrote.

"I paid for my bridesmaids’ dresses and didn’t expect them to subsidise my wedding day." another added.

But others didn't side with her as easily...

"I think it's something that should have been discussed ages ago. It is normal to pay for your own dress but usually there is talk about it first."

What do you think the bridesmaid should do in this situation?