Mum hits back at people calling her husband a 'hands on' dad

parenting 07/01/2019

One mum is over people calling her hubby a 'hands on' dad when he only does a fraction of what she does in an entire day.

We all know that it takes two to make a baby. But in saying that, the weight of caring for that baby isn't always so equally distributed. More often than not, mums end up carrying more than the fair share of the weight when it comes to caring for the baby.

Constance Hall is a mum and blogger who is well known for her open and honest vents, and in Hall's recent viral Facebook post she has opened up to her fans and followers that she is over people calling her and her husband "couple goals," and commenting that her hubby is a "hands on" dad.

She revealed that why she was not trying to shame him online, she wanted to clear a few things up for the masses on the outside looking in.

"The truth is that having a baby has pushed my relationship to the absolute edge." Constance began.

The minute the baby came out, I became the ball and chain

After giving birth to their baby Raja, Hall was thrust into into "a system that greatly benefits one gender while driving another insane," she wrote on Facebook. Many aspects of her and husband's relationship changed with Raja in the picture, and none of them benefitted the new mum.

Constance wrote how even though she was always with baby, she had never felt so lonely.

Along with feelings of loneliness, Hall is also downright annoyed that like many other modern women, she is carrying an invisible workload that most dads are free from.

"I am resentful. After doing so many loads of washing the other morning while his highness slept in for the 340th time this year I flooded the bathroom, mopped for half an hour, put the baby down, made myself some eggs, walked past the wet patch and slipped, smashing my plate and knees. And I was not expecting to not be able to get up. I just lay there, covered in washing machine water. Furiously crying. So f*cking angry with where motherhood/wifehood has taken me."

Hall's post is just preaching to the choir. The write-up on Facebook has gone viral with many comments underneath from other mums who are sharing their own struggles in the comments, both praising and criticising their own husbands.