An Aussie mum blogger has shared a picture of a contract, that was drawn up for her 12-year-old son, consisting of 17 rules that he must abide by before she will allow him to use a mobile phone.
"Before we gave Ayden his mobile phone we wrote up an agreement that was to be agreed on by his three parents (modern day families these days lol) and then had to be signed by ALL parties." she wrote on her controversial blog post.
The mum writes that although she doesn’t believe that young teenagers should have phones with social media, she didn’t want to be that parent who wouldn’t allow it.
So, she created the contract. The contract is a way to give her a bit of peace of mind while her son uses his phone.
"Having to trust that your child is doing the right thing is nerve wrecking. Its a big step and a scary one for some parents." she wrote.
The contract states, "By agreeing to these terms and conditions, you understand at any point, you can and will have this phone removed from your hands and reassessment may be done regarding the rules and conditions."
1. You acknowledge that if phone is broken or lost, you are to replace it or fix it at your own cost. We have taken the responsibility to provide you with a top of the range screen protector and cover.
2. Always answer your parents' calls. If you can't answer, message us, call us when you can. If no contact is made, then we look for you.
3. Data - once you go over your data you don't get any extra till you next data top-up.
4. No mobile phones in rooms.
5. Mobile phone is to be given to parents before you go bed - at both houses.
6. Screen times apply. No messaging people before 7.30am, some people actually sleep in, strange huh?!
7. Follow the schools' rules and policies for mobile phones.
8. Do NOT take photos, movies of people who aren't aware. This includes strangers. Especially if someone asks you not to take image.
9. Do NOT upload anything on social media that you wouldn't like being uploaded about yourself or your sisters. Or you wouldn't want your mother or grandmother to see.
10. Don't troll people on social media.
11. Passwords and account names - accessible at all times. You change the password and we don't know - IT'S GONE.
12. If you delete and purposefully hide things on your phone, social media or emails, you'll lose the accounts.
13. Remember what you write and say. Writing something can come across completely differently to what someone might have meant.
14. What you post on social media is forever.
15. If you are being bullied - show us. Don't hide it.
16. Understand your SIM card and use of our phone is a huge privelege.
17. Any violence, issues that cause us to lose trust in your will result in banned phone.
After sharing the contract on Facebook, mums and dads were quick to praise Mel for tackling a tricky issue and being firm about it, with many tagging their friends.
"What a fantastic idea", wrote one mum.
"I think this is ace," another added.