In a recent blog post on MamaMia, well known blogger Constance Hall has opened up about her parenting style and given some tips to others.
Constance urges parents to let their kids be as free as possible - removing stress for both parents and kids.
"I hate it when people say to me, 'I don’t know how you do it with six kids, I can’t even handle my two,' because the truth is, I probably did more parental work when I had two than I do now."
She then went on to give her 6 top tips for 'family survival'
1. Get a flatmate
"My life changed the minute I started getting flat mates. I can go to the shops on my own, I can go out for a drink when the kids are asleep, I have company and don’t spend my entire day waiting for my husband to get home and unload on him. Family is great. I’ve had female cousins live with me, my stepdad live with me, now I have a lovely Māori friend living here."
"Dinner doesn’t have to be as stressful as we make it. Eating should be one of the pleasurable things you share with your kids, not a blur of angry memories. So if they don’t eat their dinner, don’t stress, try something else."
"Stress less about what they wear. When my first child wouldn’t go to kindy unless it was in this hideous long velvet dress, I would die. I wanted her in kaftans and turbans and boho jewels, treating her like just another accessory, but she was desperate for the princess dress. Thankfully she shat herself in that dress and mummy sent it to the dry cleaners and it must have gotten “lost” in the mail…"
4. White Noise
"Some call it 'ignoring,' I believe I have levitated to a spiritual state where I don’t hear them fighting or whinging for me."
5. Everyone Needs Some 'Me' Time
"I check out at around 7.30pm. Anything you need that’s not an emergency after that is up to you to do. I’m not your mum; I’m not here. I’m not your slave, I’m just a statue of a woman who an hour ago wiped your bum and is now drinking wine chatting on the phone to her sister."
6. Bath Time
"They don’t have to bath or shower every day. They can quite often skip that part of the routine if it’s getting everyone down. I’m like, 'Fine, stinky, go to school and gross everyone out'."
She finished her post by urging parents to care less about the 'small stuff'.
"I worry we spend so much time trying to keep everything perfect that we miss the important stuff." she wrote.
"There is almost always an easier option and for the sake of your sanity I beg you to find it. I promise that one walk with your five-year-old in the bush where you are fully present will mean more to him then having his undies perfectly folded every day for three years."
"And by ‘fully present,’ I also mean doing a bit of filming for Instagram. Because what’s the point of killing it at motherhood if it’s not online… right?"
What do you make of Constance's advice?