Mum sparks debate with her list of rules for visiting her newborn

parenting 25/05/2018

A mum's list of rules for friends and family visiting her newborn has divided users on the Mumsnet website.

The mum asked if she was being unreasonable with her list and went on to share it in its entirety...  

"Wash hands with soap and water before touching. No visiting if you have been ill recently. No kissing on the mouth (only kiss on the forehead)."

"No touching the mouth. If you hold the baby you will be asked to help around the flat (only for visits at ours). Do NOT wake the baby! If you have smoked you must change clothes and wash hand before holding the baby."

"Only visit if pre-arranged or invited. No flash photography. Please respect the wishes of mummy and daddy as we are getting used to having a baby. No photos or posts about the baby on Facebook."

"If the baby is asleep she needs to be put in the cot or basket. Feeding time is private time."

People were quick to jump in with their thoughts, with many calling the list over the top.

"I get no photos on Facebook but how controlling must you be to say nobody can discuss the baby online?" one person wrote.

"Is this for real? I doubt you’ll get any visitors at all if you issue that list of rules! Or is that the idea…? Ah, very clever..."

Although many were harsh on the mother, some tried to see it from her point of view...

"I sort of get where you are coming from with some of the rules, but I think it’s a bit excessive. If anyone does anything that bothers you, just ask/tell them to stop doing it." wrote one person.

"None of these (apart from maybe 5, just because of how it’s phrased) are unreasonable but the fact that you feel like you have to set them out in a list like this makes me wonder if you’re dealing with some difficult people in your life." confessed another.

Do you think the rules are too extreme?

Source: GoodToKnow